How can I help my 10 year old son control his behavior at school?

“Drs, I am at a loss with my son. How can I help my 10 year old control his behavior at school? “

The first thing to look at is his health. Is he getting enough rest, eating properly, enough exercise? It is also important to look at any recent or ongoing stressors that need to be processed. We also need to examine parenting styles, and the parent/child relationship to ascertain how that is working, and how can it be improved upon.

The child and his goals, desires, level of development, and abilities to cope and problem solve are gathered. From there a plan is made to assist with all  or specific areas that can help. Typically, after general health care review, and maybe some parenting tips, the child is helped to learn specific impulse control skills, stress reducing techniques, and problem solving strategies. Depending on the child’s age and ability to comprehend, an attempt to correct some faulty thinking may also be incorporated.

 

I hope this gives you some insight on the factors that affect your son. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942 if you would like to contact us for specific therapy for your child

Response from Counselor Jan Doty

Why do my great relationships sour over time?

“Hey Doctor, why are my relationships so great and happy in the beginning and then it goes bad once there is a level of comfort and security in the relationship? This seems to be a common problem in my life, could you give me some general advice?”

Depending on your particular situation, I would advise one or both of the following:

  1. The endorphins released and the chemical reactions that takes place in your brain at the begining of a relationship are similar to the “high” you would get from other types of drugs such as cocaine.  Because you are in an “altered state” you tend to overlook qualities that might send you away otherwise.  After this has worn off and your brain is no longer supplying the influx of chemicals, you are able to see the person for who they really are.  Some people who suffer from addiction will chase this “high” when it wears off in search of a new relationship or extra-marital affairs.
  2. Once comfortable in a relationship we tend to replay the dysfunction of our parent’s marriage due to what we witnessed in our parent’s relationship growing up.  We subconsciously pick the same type of relationship as our parents had in an effort to repair the past.

I hope this gives you some understanding of why this happens even in a general sense. If you would like more specific information regarding your happiness and healthy relationships, please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

-Response from Therapist Dana Duet-Champagne