Does overeating escalate to eating addiction?

Dr Andre,  How do I know if overeating has escalated into an eating addiction?

 

Many addictions of any sort are ways to distance pain or ignore and disregard feelings that we may fear. Also , many people do not have the skills or knowledge to work through these often overwhelming feelings. We could help use to use your feelings as guideposts to lead you to healthier, more beneficial and productive choices for yourself. A plan (with your goals) could be made to include figuring out what you may be really “hungry” for, and learning behavioral choices that support confidence, strength and the ability to freely choose.

Also nutritionally, foods that increase hunger could be discussed, as well as a comprehensive health plan to help you feel in control of your eating. Journaling  or at least becoming aware of what you are feeling emotionally before you eat is a good place to start. If you would like more specific information on how you can overcome eating addiction, please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

 

-Dr. Andre Sagrera Judice, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, DCEP

Why do I feel everything must be perfect?

Dr Andre,

Why do I feel the need to have everything in my house, car, and area at work perfect or I just can’t function?

 

Exploration of what may be  beneath your need to control your outer environment can be looked at. A good place to start could be to help you dissect your beliefs about what perfect actually means to you. A goal of a stronger self concept along with stress relief skills could also assist you in achieving a more “perfect” state of balance within.

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?

-Bob Marley

Bob Marley reminds us that identifying the source of our mindset is key. If you would like more specific information regarding overcoming compusion, please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

Andre Sagrera Judice, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, DCEP

Does group therapy help anger management?

Dr. Andre, Will group therapy help me with my anger issues?

Group therapy can be helpful for many different problematic areas in one’s life including anger management.  Anger is a normal emotional response, but it’s what we do with it that can lead to problems.  What aspects of your life are being affected by your angry responses, relationships, work, etc?  Do you ever feel the need to “hold-in” your anger?  What are the typical physical responses when angry?  It’s important to consider these questions to determine your need for group or individual anger management therapy.

Group anger management has some benefits that individual therapy does not offer.

Group anger management has some benefits that individual therapy does not offer.  Being involved in a group allows you to see others coping with the same challenges.  It can be helpful to hear other personal stories of failures and successes.  Either way, effective therapy will help you to learn ways of approaching anger and expressing it in a healthy fashion.

If you would like to join our monthly anger management group therapy session, please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

Dr. Andre Sagrera Judice, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, DCEP

Couple’s Communication 101

Dr Andre, Why can’t I communicate with my partner?

 

“We just can’t seem to communicate!” I hear this often in sessions with couples. Here are a few pointers that I always offer my clients who struggle with communication.

First of all, we need to understand the differences in the way men and women communicate. Men are generally far more concrete and linear in their thoughts and statements, whereas women are more abstract and detailed. For men, YES and NO are perfectly acceptable answers. Women, however, are more likely to respond with more information. For example, when a lady asks a man if she looks OK in a particular dress, a man believes he has answered her question when he responds with “yes” or “no”. Another female is more likely to respond to the same question with, “Well, I like the color of the dress, but…”

A gifted communicator knows how to listen.

Another communication challenge happens when a man asks a woman what is wrong and she answers “nothing”. He usually believes her! This does not mean he doesn’t care about her. Men are just not good mind readers. Ladies, they depend on you to tell them what you want or need. But, remember, we all get the best results when we speak in the “I” rather than “you”. Starting a statement with “you” tends to put the other person on the defensive because it has an accusatory tone. And, let’s not forget tone and timing are very important.

A gifted communicator knows how to listen. Men, by nature, are problem solvers. Women vent their feelings and problems to men who in turn have the urge to fix the problem. Great news, guys!  You don’t have to fix it – just listen. Listen without judgment. She just needs to get it off her chest.

Great news, guys!  You don’t have to fix it – just listen.

Finally, have you ever heard of QTIPS? It’s the acronym for Quit Taking It Personally, Silly. We all need to remember that not all problems are about us; so, let’s not assume he or she is angry at or disappointed with us. Your partner’s attitude or expression may be the result of something that happened at work or with someone else. Just ask, “You look upset. Is this about me?” When you respond with openness, your partner will feel safer to share with you. However, if the problem is about you, remember tone and timing. We can say almost anything when we say it with kindness and respect.

…remember tone and timing.

For more in-depth help with relationship and communication challenges, our therapists at Northshore Counseling and Wellness and always happy to help you be your best self. Please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

-Dr. Andre Sagrera Judice, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, DCEP

Contributed by Janis Caserta, LPC, LAC