Too often parents send children with behavioral problems to individual counseling without recognizing the crucial role they play in remedying the problem. When looking at counseling from a systemic approach, you recognize that children are largely a product of their environments. As individuals in a family, we all play a role based on the roles and behaviors of the other family members. It is impossible to fully understand a person in isolation because we are all a part of an emotional unit, a family. You must look at the unit as a whole in order to properly remedy the source of the problem.
It is often said, “Children don’t come with an instruction manual,” which is why family counseling can be such a wonderful tool to help you figure out the best ways to parent your child, based on the overall structure of your family. Children function best when living in a structured and stable environment. This helps to create a sense of safety and security for the child, thus allowing them to thrive.
Child behavioral problems often emerge during times of major life changes, such as parental divorce, a death in the family, birth of a new sibling, or moving to a new location. These life changes can lead to a change in the family’s current balance, and thus lead to role changes. Because these changes can cause instability, it is important during these times to check in with your child; communicate with your child about their thoughts and feeling, and look out for any changes in their mood and/or behavior. During these times it is also important to maintain a routine, and stay consistent with any rules, consequences, and rewards system in place.
In family counseling, parents and their children are able to work together with the help of their therapist to learn the tools needed to create a happy, healthy family unit. You will explore possible sources of your child’s symptoms by looking at the structure and roles of the family unit, create a personalized treatment plan, learn new communication skills, learn new parenting techniques, and implement them while under the guidance of your therapist.
M.Ed., NCC, LPC-I
Do you often find yourself staying clear of certain people or places in order to avoid conflict? Have you ever missed work or not picked up the phone intentionally? Do you tend to say “yes” to things that you really want to say no to?
Avoidance in life is a concept that most people don’t understand or may not even realize they are doing. While it is ideal for everyone to live a conflict-free, harmonious lifestyle, avoiding people, places, or things that may cause disruption is not always the answer. Sometimes we use our ability to avoid situations or feelings in an unhealthy way. This usually results in unresolved conflicts, or continuous feelings of insecurity, anxiety, fear, and/or stress about the situation that we don’t want to face.
Some avoidance strategies include: avoidance as denial, escaping the situation, hiding from life or isolating oneself, lacking the courage to face someone/something, using “busyness” as an excuse, fear of taking responsibility, and/or avoiding communication, uncomfortable feelings, grief, pain, stress, or repressed feelings.
It’s necessary to recognize the importance of facing issues, conflicts, fearful situations, etc. to overcome these anxieties and resolve the problem. Ways to help yourself can include individual therapy, positive self talk or picking up a self-help guide to facing conflicts and becoming more assertive in life such as The Disease to Please by Harriett Braiker.
MHS, CRC, LPC-I
Managing Anger, Group therapy helps you live a better life
We offer therapy groups designed to help you learn:
- Where problems with your anger may come from
- How you can benefit from “sensible” anger
- What tools are available to help you deal with anger
These groups are designed to be informative AND supportive!
Topics will run in 8 week cycles.
- Groups will meet every Friday from 6-8 p.m.
- Groups are scheduled on demand, please call to confirm
- Each group is 2 hours long
- Can’t commit to all 8 groups at once? No problem! There is no obligation to attend all 8 groups in a row
- Cost $50.00 per 2 hour session (those who pay for all 8 weeks will receive a 10% discount!)
- Attendance letters given out at the end of each session if needed
- Participation in the group is required to receive letter of attendance
How do I sign up?
Please call Northshore Counseling and Wellness at 985-624-2942 or 504-717-4043 or sign up for the anger management group here. Credit/debit card payments may be taken over the phone at the time of registration. Payment is required for the group before the session either over the phone or with a check or cash upon arrival. Please arrive to the clinic at least 5 minutes before the meeting time if you are bringing a payment.
How group therapy can help you improve with others:
- Safety and comfort in commonality
- Increased speed of healing breakthroughs
- Support of others
- Involvement in positive change for others
Group counseling is a very powerful and effective way to engage in personal change. While some people are initially hesitant to share their struggles or concerns with a group of strangers, participants in group counseling soon understand that the group is intentionally set up so that all members of the group are accountable to being respectful and keeping all information confidential. This allows members to quickly become comfortable within the safety of the group, and therefore gain tremendous benefit from the support of not just a therapist but an entire group of people. Common benefits of group therapy include the speed with which breakthroughs and change can happen, the knowledge for each member that he/she is not alone in their struggles, the growth that comes from being able to receive support as well as from being part of a change process for others.
Read more about Group Therapy services and how you can benefit from them here.
Our new office is open and providing individual, family and group therapy for New Orleans, Metairie, Kenner and surrounding areas
North Shore Counseling and wellness is available for counseling appointments beginning Monday, October 1, 2012 at our new address. We are serving existing patients from our Mandeville office for your convenience. If you work or are frequently in the Metro New Orleans area, schedule your next appointment at your convenience at our new Metairie office.
If you are a resident of the Greater New Orleans area, seeking counseling for marriage, family, relationships, addiction, bipolor disorder, collaborative divorce, medication management, assessment for ADHD, ADD or PTSD, schedule an appointment by calling or contacting our therapy office today.
South Shore Counseling & Wellness:
433 Metairie Road
Metairie, LA 70005
Map and driving directions for our New Orleans North & South Shore Counseling & Wellness offices
How will Marriage Counseling help you?
- Resolve conflict
- Learn new communication skills
- Therapy guides you both through your positive skills
- Grow better, together
It is common for couples even in strong relationships and marriages to have difficulty at times. This is because we each bring our communication and coping skill sets into our relationships, and at some point in the relationship those skills might be clashing or might not be developed enough to handle stressors that the relationship encounters. If the couple can’t move past these glitches on their own, couples counseling can be very effective at helping them learn new skills and new ways of relating. Interestingly, our best research indicates that even the healthiest couples disagree up to 70% of the time on crucial issues, so the good news is that we don’t have to aim for convincing our partners to see things our way to achieve happiness in relationships.
Couples counseling helps you to learn which of your current skill sets are working for you in the relationship, and what skills need to be developed. Having a neutral and objective therapist in the conversation helps the process to remain productive, calm, and allow each of you to have support in the change process. The therapist is able to point out areas that both of you need to gain more perspective on and areas for growth. Finally, the therapist is there to explain why certain things are happening in the relationship and teach more effective skills to get better outcomes.
Read more about individual, couple, family and group therapy advantages here