How is Your Uniqueness a Strength?

Many people hate being different. But what if being different is exactly where all the opportunities for success and happiness start?

This is not a made up tease.

According to Gallup Research everyone has talent and some people have cultivated their talents into their STRENGTHS. People who use their strengths are happier and more satisfied with their life at work and at home.

How can you find out about YOUR strengths?

At Gallup’s website you can take a test. It’s only $9.99 and it will send you information immediately upon completing the test.

This test was based on research that encompassed over three million people. When you are done you will get your top 5 strengths and descriptions along with some additional information. There are 34 strengths, but only 1 in 33.3 million people will have the same exact five strengths in their top five.

The advantage of learning about your strengths is that it often confirms what we are good at and love to do. Many people are pushed to work on their weaknesses and end up feeling drained and unhappy. When you cultivate your talents you feel energized and in the zone! That place where time is lost and you feel completely absorbed.

If you haven’t been in the “zone” for a while, or never, don’t worry!

Talents may be dormant but they never go away. You just have to decide to use them!

Why should you learn more about your STRENGTHS?
1. It will help you rediscover or confirm your talents.
2. You will be more confident about communicating your strengths to others because you value your own uniqueness.
3. A greater appreciation for your own talents will help you recognize what is special about others.

This is just the start! Many organizations and businesses use strength-based training to develop teams, but it is also great for individuals and couples.

If you are interested in learning more about your strengths Northshore & Southshore Wellness is partnering with Wendy Hornung, a Gallup Certified Strength Coach. See our EVENTS section to find out about upcoming Strengths-based training events.

Self Esteem

Self esteem is the ability to have and enduring sense of worth, value, and self-acceptance. Often we reject parts of ourselves, and judge ourselves harshly. To avoid feeling worse we often develop defense mechanisms that compound the issue. We often blame, get angry, become perfectionists, brag, make excuses, or turn to alcohol and drugs, or other numbing, addictive behaviors.

“…we often develop defense mechanisms that compound the issue”

One can begin to change these patterns by changing the way you interpret your life by uncovering faulty thinking, negative self talk, and self-judgment. Skills can be learned to change negative thinking, beliefs, and ways of interpreting information. Self compassion and a commitment to non-judgment and self-acceptance, while doing the work to improve one’s self-concept is the focus of therapy.

Credit: Jan Doty