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Does group therapy help anger management?

Dr. Andre, Will group therapy help me with my anger issues?

Group therapy can be helpful for many different problematic areas in one’s life including anger management.  Anger is a normal emotional response, but it’s what we do with it that can lead to problems.  What aspects of your life are being affected by your angry responses, relationships, work, etc?  Do you ever feel the need to “hold-in” your anger?  What are the typical physical responses when angry?  It’s important to consider these questions to determine your need for group or individual anger management therapy.

Group anger management has some benefits that individual therapy does not offer.

Group anger management has some benefits that individual therapy does not offer.  Being involved in a group allows you to see others coping with the same challenges.  It can be helpful to hear other personal stories of failures and successes.  Either way, effective therapy will help you to learn ways of approaching anger and expressing it in a healthy fashion.

If you would like to join our monthly anger management group therapy session, please call our office for an appointment. We’re located in Metairie (504) 717-4043 or Mandeville (985) 624-2942

Dr. Andre Sagrera Judice, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, DCEP

How do I get my point across without sounding angry?

How do I get my point across without sounding angry?

 The best way to get another person to really hear what we are trying to say consists of two main actions.  

  1. Never try to get an important point across when either of you is angry, but especially when the other person is angry.  If you are angry, the person is going to be defensive because of your anger, and not really focus on what you are saying.  If they do hear what you are saying, they are likely to just dismiss it out of defensiveness.  If the other person is angry, they are too overwhelmed by their own cortisol levels (our stress hormone) for their brain to be able to receive any input anyway.  So the best course of action is to wait to discuss it until both of you are calmed down and able to remain calm when talking about it.
  2. When you do discuss your point, use what we call “I language.”  Talk about your feelings, your goals, and what is or is not working for you.  Talk about yourself, aka “I.”  So instead of saying, “Why do you always take the kids’ side?  You know that pisses me off”, you would say “When i hear you say that I am too harsh of a parent, I assume you are taking the kids’ side instead of finding a way to work with me on this.  Is this right?  I get really frustrated because it is important to me that we are united in our parenting.  I worry that we won’t be good at standing together in situations like this.”  Obviously, the second response is much easier the other person to hear and respond to.  It makes him/her much less defensive because you are not putting him/her on the hot seat.  Instead you are just explaining your concerns and inviting them to talk with you about it.

Try saying “I feel this way about…” instead of “Why do YOU always….”

Contributed by  Michelle Haeur